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PostSubject: in all seriousness   Fri Aug 19, 2011 6:55 am

i think i will write this post to tell myself the myriad of reasons that we cannot/should not ttc just yet....

* i have a toddler
*i have a job with no maternity rights
*hubby isn't qualified yet
*when hubby is qualified we don't know if he will get a job
*we don't have a house
*i like having elijah all to myself/elijah probably likes having us all to himself
*still no af so i take that to mean my body isn't ready
*or i have gone through the menopause???!!!!!!!!!
*hubby thinks i am still 'mental' from being pregnant (little does he know Wink)
*i am still too fat to get pg again
*i am quite enjoying getting back to 'life', working, being able to walk without pain
*we have no security whatsoever, no idea where we will be living in a few months
*i want a spring baby again so would have to get pg NOW or in a year
*after reading other people's experiences i am sh*t scared at the idea of having 2 and genuinely believe i might crack up
*ttc was so easy last time i can't help but believe something terrible is more likely to happen this time
* i have to remember that having a second baby will never be the same as my experience with elijah


and why do i want to ttc?

* babies are aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawesome
* i want elijah to have someone to play with/torment
* an element of curiosity - we have one beautiful little soul, who else is in there?
* i feel much more confident about children in general
* hormones!
* jealousy!
* a fear of getting too old too quickly!
* i have a strong instinct to get on with it...can't really describe it
* i would like to have the opportunity to have more than just one more and time seems to be ticking (in my head at least)
* wouldn't like elijah to be too old to be close to his sibling/s


hmmm so the cons outweight the pros for now i think...ho hum pirat
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PostSubject: Re: in all seriousness   Fri Aug 19, 2011 6:59 am

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PostSubject: Re: in all seriousness   Fri Aug 19, 2011 7:06 am

There is never a good time to ttc and you can always find reasons not to.

But, life has a way of working out. I would go for it x
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PostSubject: Re: in all seriousness   Fri Aug 19, 2011 7:06 am

Neutral

oh yeah...

* i have to wait for linz to be pg again too so i can whine at her for 9 months
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PostSubject: Re: in all seriousness   Fri Aug 19, 2011 7:25 am

Have another one. You never know you might get one that sleeps this time. I'm starting to want another baby so much but we need to move first and we've been trying to do that for four years and am beginning to think it will never happen
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PostSubject: Re: in all seriousness   Fri Aug 19, 2011 7:27 am

the idea was that i was proving that it was the correct decision not to!!!
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PostSubject: Re: in all seriousness   Fri Aug 19, 2011 7:33 am

You know we all want you to though, there won't be any convincing of us lot that it's sensible Laughing

We've just been to see my 2 nieces and I said to hubby when they were all playing together with Stephen that we could have 3 close together like that and he said ok Shocked Clearly it's not sensible to have 3 under 3 but I worry that broodiness will overtake the sensible part of my brain again Laughing
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PostSubject: Re: in all seriousness   Fri Aug 19, 2011 7:41 am

mariheartselijah wrote:
Neutral

oh yeah...

* i have to wait for linz to be pg again too so i can whine at her for 9 months



you can still whine at me all you like darling, but I ain't having another one til at least 2013 Wink
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PostSubject: Re: in all seriousness   Fri Aug 19, 2011 7:56 am

3 under 3? Laughing
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you can still whine at me all you like darling, but I ain't having another one til at least 2013 Wink

haha thanks, 2013 is aaaaaaaaages away!!! what if you want 7 babies and run out of time???

mr.mari just says 'yep you can have a baby whenever you want', im sure i was more convinced when he was saying no....i think it's a tactic to stop me!

i have never been very patient and its maddening trying to be now.
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PostSubject: Re: in all seriousness   Fri Aug 19, 2011 8:00 am

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mr.mari has requested i add a pro:

* gets to have sexy times
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PostSubject: Re: in all seriousness   Fri Aug 19, 2011 8:05 am

if mr mari says yes then jump on!!

I'm getting married next year so baby has to wait til year after Wink
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PostSubject: Re: in all seriousness   Fri Aug 19, 2011 8:12 am

See mr Mari wants one. I think we should have a poll
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PostSubject: Re: in all seriousness   Fri Aug 19, 2011 8:16 am

umm bit late no pixel??? Wink

hahaha erm liberty i don't think the baby has anything to do with that request Wink
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PostSubject: Re: in all seriousness   Fri Aug 19, 2011 8:17 am

mariheartselijah wrote:
i think i will write this post to tell myself the myriad of reasons that we cannot/should not ttc just yet....

* i have a toddler - Toddlers love babies, they're much more fun than boring mummies
*i have a job with no maternity rights - so long as you earn on average £30 a week you can claim MA
*hubby isn't qualified yet - He's a qualified daddy, that's all that really matters
*when hubby is qualified we don't know if he will get a job - He will! PMA!!
*we don't have a house - Ok I admit this is a tricky one but you'd cope
*i like having elijah all to myself/elijah probably likes having us all to himself - You will still have Elijah all to yourself hun - nobody is taking him away, you're getting him a little play mate and trust me he will love it!
*still no af so i take that to mean my body isn't ready - scratch
*or i have gone through the menopause???!!!!!!!!! Shocked
*hubby thinks i am still 'mental' from being pregnant (little does he know Wink) - yeah that'll never go away he may as well just accept it and move on Laughing
*i am still too fat to get pg again - no point getting thin till you're done getting fat hun - I didn't lose much after Thomas but have managed to shift 6 stone since having Hannah - it's easier to lose with two kids running you ragged
*i am quite enjoying getting back to 'life', working, being able to walk without pain - yeah that must be nice but can you really settle knowing you will probably have to do it all again at some point? Would you not rather get it over with now then you can REALLY settle back into life
*we have no security whatsoever, no idea where we will be living in a few months - it will work itself out hun, lets face it none of us have a crystal ball, we could get run over by buses tomorrow - CARPE DIEM!!!
*i want a spring baby again so would have to get pg NOW or in a year - how do you know you wouldn't enjoy an autumn/winter/summer baby just as much?
*after reading other people's experiences i am sh*t scared at the idea of having 2 and genuinely believe i might crack up - yep probably hun but it so much fun and I wouldn't change it for the world, the thought that I might have stuck at one makes me sad even though I could quite happily sell both my kids to gypsies daily Very Happy
*ttc was so easy last time i can't help but believe something terrible is more likely to happen this time - took me 1 month both times - there is absolutely no reason why you should have any problems
* i have to remember that having a second baby will never be the same as my experience with elijah - course it will, they are all as special as each other and no two births/babies are the same. Imagine the love you have for your little guy and double it and add a little bit more and that's what it feels like having two Wink


and why do i want to ttc?

* babies are aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawesome - hhmmmm? toddlers are awesome - babies are a bit... bleh! Laughing
* i want elijah to have someone to play with/torment - defo! he would love it and thrive on it!
* an element of curiosity - we have one beautiful little soul, who else is in there?
* i feel much more confident about children in general - hhmmm again all kids are different, I was confident until I met miss Hannah
* hormones! affraid
* jealousy!
* a fear of getting too old too quickly!
* i have a strong instinct to get on with it...can't really describe it
* i would like to have the opportunity to have more than just one more and time seems to be ticking (in my head at least)
* wouldn't like elijah to be too old to be close to his sibling/s
can't argue with the rest


hmmm so the cons outweight the pros for now i think...ho hum pirat



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PostSubject: Re: in all seriousness   Fri Aug 19, 2011 8:25 am

Well if you want convincing that its the wrong time what about the fact you have a child that doesn't sleep so there's no chance of any sexy time
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PostSubject: Re: in all seriousness   Fri Aug 19, 2011 5:30 pm

Go with Debs answer pleeeeeeeeease! x
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PostSubject: Re: in all seriousness   Fri Aug 19, 2011 6:42 pm

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Well if you want convincing that its the wrong time what about the fact
you have a child that doesn't sleep so there's no chance of any sexy
time
Laughing that's true! along with living with my mother, romance is at an all time low haha

well thank you debs, i knew i could rely on you Wink
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PostSubject: Re: in all seriousness   Wed Aug 24, 2011 2:52 am

lol mari I think your on the wrong forum if you want convincing NOT to TTC.



I believe in fate and if you let nature decide it will happen when it is right. therefore i say go for it too Smile
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